A number of married people have revealed the different ways they keep their marriage going.
As part of its Marriage: An Investigation series, The Cut asked 10 married people to reveal the methods that they rely on to ensure that their marriage stays successful and exciting.
Having sex on a regular basis and avoiding looking at each other’s messages and emails are just some of the many ways the loved-up couples keep their marriages in tact.
While many respondents focus their energy on giving each other space, several said the key to keeping their marriage going revolved around their love life.
48-year-old Randy, who has been married for 15 years, said that ‘the best thing’ she ever did for her relationship was getting a boob job.
She explained: ‘I feel sexy every night with my husband now, and it made us stronger and closer, without a doubt.’
Liza, 49, who has been married for almost 20 years, said: ‘Lube. Designer lube. Lube you leave out on your nightstand.’
Similarly, Julia, who has been married to her partner for eight years, said: ‘Have sex once a week, no matter what.’
The 38-year-old added: ‘If you don’t do this, you end up feeling like roommates, and who wants to live with a gross boy?’
Another woman, who has been married to her husband for just three years, said the keep to keeping her marriage going is ‘blow jobs’.
She explained: ‘I can get away with almost anything if I blow him on a regular basis.’
Meanwhile, others said they keep their marriage going by implementing certain rules in place – some of which regard finances.
40-year-old Aviva said: ‘I don’t know or care about his finances. He doesn’t know or care about mine.’
Aviva, who has been married three years, added: ‘If he doesn’t do his taxes on time? F**k it, not my problem.’
Tanya, 33, who has been married for just two years, said: ‘We never, ever, ever look at each other’s emails or texts.
‘Snooping leads to nothing good,’ she added.
Another woman, Carly, 38, said hiring a ‘cleaning person’ is one way she and her partner, who have been married for four years, keep their marriage going.