Relatives are the main cause of divorce nowadays. Most of them (relatives) camp at their daughter’s or son’s house in the name of ‘familiarizing’ themselves with the new addition to their family but in most cases, all doesn’t end well.
Some of them end up committing incest and this married woman has been caught in the same situation. According to this woman, her sister slept with her ex-lover and after finding out, they parted ways and now she’s married to someone else. But the problem is, the same sister keeps visiting her home and she is afraid what happened in her last relationship might reoccur.
“When I was single, I left a man I was dating at that time because he forcefully used his finger to disvirgin me. Six months after I called off the relationship, I began to hear people talking that my sister went after the same guy and started a relationship with him. My sister denied it all when I confronted her.
When I was in school, there was this day I needed this same guys help. So, I sent him a text message, asking for his help. This was after I had called off the relationship. He didn’t reply my text message, so I decided to forget about him and got someone else to help me. When I traveled back home, there was this day I used to my sister’s mobile phone to make a call and decided to check her messages afterwards. I did and saw many things that shocked me. One particular conversation was about when I asked him for help back then at school. He told my sister that the reason why he didn’t respond to my message asking for help was that he wasn’t sure whether I was truthful about needing help or I just trying to set him up. My sister responded, telling him not to help me, that she doesn’t want anything or anyone to come between them even me, her sister. This blew my mind but I didn’t confront or say anything to her about my discovery.
To cut the whole story short,
Even though I am married now, anytime she visits me, I don’t just feel happy or comfortable with her presence. I don’t feel secure going out and leaving her at home with my family. She is no longer with the guy now. He even came later with some members of his family and friends to beg me and I have forgiven him. So my question now is: I would like to stop my sister from coming to my house but I do not know how to do that such that my parents will not be badly hurt. My reason is not just because she’s backstabbed me and likes following men, but also because she doesn’t listen to advice, always acting as if she knows better than everyone else.”