Just because your spouse doesn’t come home in the evening doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s cheating or sleeping around. It doesn’t mean that he goes to his “Mpango wa Kando”. Maybe you are the problem. There are still good men out here you know.
When he wakes up to go to work in the morning, do you prepare his breakfast willingly? Do you make sure he is well dressed for work? When he comes home in the evening,how do you receive him? Do you even ask him how his day was?
I bet by know you do understand what am trying to say right? It all depends on how you treat your man. If your answers were mostly negative then I bet you can relate.
In Mbusii’s words “Mwanaume anaenda kazini kama bibi yake amenuna serious,anachapa works vizuri mpaka magithaa zake anamaliza job anaamua kurudi nyumbani na ako na mawazo.Haongeleshwi na bibi,chakula anapewa na madharao,kuanikiwa haanikiwi nanga,atatusiwa mbele ya watoto anaona ile nyumba yake haikaliki anaingia kwa bar agonge one for the road.
In the morning when your husband leaves for work you are all down in the dumps, he does his job and when he is done and ready to go home in the evening, he remembers that his wife isn’t even talking to him, his food is served arrogantly, he is abused in presence of his children, and seriously woman, why would he even look forward to coming home if his most basic need is not met? I mean his conjugal right.
He decides the bar is his first destination. He plans on having one for the road but before he knows it’s ten for the road.He is ready to go home but then after he remembers what he is going home to, he needs another five. By the time he is done with those it is morning already.
So if you are a married woman, it’s time to stop complaining about your husband’s drinking habit and check on yourself first. Take care of him as if he were your child.In the morning, let him go to work a happy man so he can have something to look forward to in the evening.
If not, you will all your life complain about your husband ‘Wifing’ the bar. And if you ain’t going to change, then news flash!! He won’t either.