‘I wanted a wedding not a funeral,’ Bride diagnosed with cancer reveals

A  woman who was diagnosed with cancer just days before her wedding has told how she and her fiancé came to the decision to keep her condition a secret and go through with their ceremony.

Charlotte Drake, 34, from Oxfordshire was diagnosed with breast cancer after discovering a lump while checking her breast while lying in bed.

The brand manager, who had dreamed of being a wife and mother since the age of ten, decided to go through with her nuptials to Luke Drake, now 32, in May 2014 because she wanted to have ‘a wedding, not a funeral’.

Despite having no family history of the disease, Charlotte was diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer that could have killed her within two years.

Charlotte – who was initially told by doctors that the lump was just a fatty cyst –  admitted she was concerned about going through with the marriage after tests revealed the lump could be deadly.

Charlotte Drake, 34, (pictured) from Oxfordshire was diagnosed with breast cancer a week before her wedding to Commercial Manager Luke, 32

She said: ‘When I was diagnosed I was 30, had no family history, I didn’t smoke, rarely drank and was very healthy.

‘Moments before I went into hospital for my results, I was agonising over which colour dress to buy online for my honeymoon. An hour later I was told I had cancer. It put everything into perspective and I couldn’t believe I had been worrying about a dress.

‘I was convinced my life was over and told Luke I didn’t think we should get married. I thought I’d ruined his life and didn’t want to become his wife, only for me to die.

Following the breast cancer diagnosis, Charlotte (pictured with Luke) suffered a panic attack in the days leading up to the wedding and was rushed to hospital

‘I felt like I was taking away his wedding day. But he was amazing and told me we were going ahead with it no matter what.

‘In the days leading up to our big day, instead of sorting the last-minute details I was looking into where to have treatment.

‘I’d been planning my wedding since I was a little girl. I had been so excited for the day to arrive, so I could finally slip into my dress and exchange vows with Luke. But now my life was on the line.

‘I remember thinking, at least if I die everyone will have seen me at the wedding looking the best I was ever going to look. I would be going out with a bang.’

‘Luke and I didn’t tell our guests because we wanted it to be a happy occasion. We didn’t want their pity, it was a wedding not a funeral after all.’


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